his week I received a few Christmas cards, one of which was this one shown in the picture.
I do not expect people to mention Amya, less so now after 3 years. I noticed that my friend’s thought to mention her touched me deeply.
The first Christmas was different and I would recommend what Kay Warren says in her article here:
Stop Sending Cheery Christmas Cards.
If you don’t mention our son’s tragic death, it only hurts more.
I would say this applies to any Christmas card writing:
- If you’re writing personal cards it requires a personal touch, which includes thinking about that person’s year and their challenges into account.
- If you’re sending out pre printed cards still be mindful of that person’s life and challenges.
I have to say that while sending my Christmas message via email and to over 100 people, I failed to take the individual person’s life and challenges into account and I’m sorry if I haven’t been emphatic in that regard.
What do you think?
Do you prefer your friends to mention your baby/child?
It is nice to see them included, but at the same time I do not hold it against those who don’t. Most people don’t know how or what to say. I lost my twins at 17wks this past July and my would be due date is Dec 29th, so this is a difficult time for me. But I try to be kind to myself and to others. I know it is a difficult subject for others to understand unless they have gone through it themselves. I did, however, include “In memory of Elam and Zoey” on the cards we sent out.
Nathalie Himmerlich says
I’m sorry for your loss Laura and I totally understand the challenge of the time of your due date approaching. Big sigh…
Sending you my love <3