I am pretty transparent about my healing journey yet there are parts of it I choose not to make public. Privacy is an important part of the healing process. Although I keep some details private, I no longer keep anything secret. Secrets harm. I kept secrets for a long time. I didn’t want to expose my fear, the poor choices I made in my pain, how much I blamed myself, and my deep, exhausting anger. My secrets undermined my healing for years. When I couldn’t shoulder the burden any longer I found the safest people in my life and told them all my secrets. When I was done my only regret was that I didn’t do it sooner. I could have saved myself so much unnecessary pain.