Building a new relationship post-loss takes time. The same way you need to re-create a relationship with the New Normal self, so too you have to create a new relationship with your post-loss partner.
GPS (Grieving Parents Support) REFLECTION & INSIGHT:
7 Relationship Tips to Restart Communication
- Choose a suitable time and space to talk
- Be clear and ask questions instead of assuming
- Speak in first person and use I instead of you, when stating your needs
- Keep it short and simple. The more succinct your statement of need is, the better the chance for your partner to listen and understand
- Be polite and express appreciation
- Don’t store things up. Speak in present tense about the issue that is happening right now
- Allow yourself to be vulnerable and speak about your feelings. Remember that anger is usually a cover up emotion for secondary emotions like hurt, insecurity, hopelessness, or fear.
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