and I am You.The source of our pain might be different, but our hearts ache. The missing is real, your feelings are real, your pain is real. I hear you, I hear you when you speak and I hear you when you are quiet and within yourself. I see you, I see you pull back when the conversation gets too … [Read more...]
Lesson 1: Borrowing Hope
In the early years of my grief, I learned to borrow hope. That means, when I just couldn't see how life would ever be ok again, I looked for others who had been through loss and were now role models of hope and healing. I borrowed from people who had gone before me. I poured over their books, blogs, … [Read more...]
I don’t know how to live anymore
On a recent post on the Grieving Parents Facebook page there was a fellow mother commenting on the image (right) with the statement: I don't know how to live anymore. Here is my answer: Learning to live again after the loss of a child/baby or loved one takes time AND effort. Like someone said: … [Read more...]
Why Do Grief Work?
Some people have asked me "Why shall I do grief work? Why revisit the pain?"You might have heard me talk about why the statement 'Time does heal all wounds' does not apply to grief. Time can heal a scratch or a bruise but that's not what loss and trauma does to you. Loss leaves a hole, a … [Read more...]