There are so many things that I don’t remember. I don’t remember how it felt before grief took over; how relationships and life in general influenced my emotional and mental state then. Was I always happy and content? Was my mind not as occupied? I honestly don’t remember. It is probably more … [Read more...]
“Better”
The days are getting longer in the north where I am. Winter filled. Snow, ice, cold. I feel I have been doing better, whatever better means. I take better with some reservation, because every day is still hard and painful. Better is hard making itself comfortable. Hard being the new adopted … [Read more...]
The Shadows
This morning I woke up with a scream that woke my husband. I couldn’t breathe. I got up and I found my spot in my daughter’s bed. It was not enough for me to feel her warmth or hear her breathing, I needed to hold her and I needed her to know I was there and react. I woke her up so she recognized I … [Read more...]
The Love and Grief Conversations
My daughter is 6. She loves babies. She talks a lot. She also talks a lot about her brother. The three listed are her favorites, talking about her baby brother. Many of our conversations end up talking about him and I love it. She is my buddy. K: Mami, now that M (my sister) has had her baby, … [Read more...]
Due Date
As my day turns into next... I was supposed to be all covered in flour. Mixing bowls on the counter, choosing how to decorate a cake - an animal theme. Two candles ready...an eager boy ready to blow. Wishes for a firetruck, a farm - filled when you opened your presents. Excitement, laughter, … [Read more...]