This book focuses on the effect parental bereavement has on the parents and their relationship. It is about surviving loss as a couple and the re-emerging from grief into a life of joy and melancholy, laughter and tears, happiness and sadness. Not either-or but AND.
– Nathalie Himmelrich
Grieving Parents – Surviving Loss As A Couple
Having lost the younger of our identical twin girls on the third day of her life has totally shocked us and immediately added, “bereaved parents” to our identities, right after “first time parents”. Moving with and processing grief as the same time as learning to be a mother and father felt more than overwhelming. But there was more to come…
Four and a half months after our daughters were born, across the earth ball my mother committed suicide and left us to deal with the aftermath.
You would have expected that my professional background as a relationship coach and grief recovery expert would have prepared me. I didn’t – dealing with my grief became inevitable.
A bit about the book “Grieving Parents – Surviving Loss As A Couple”
This book focuses on the effect parental bereavement has on the parents and their relationship. It is about surviving loss as a couple and the re-emerging from grief into a life of joy and melancholy, laughter and tears, happiness and sadness. Not either or but AND.
‘Surviving loss as a couple’ is about how you can re-emerge from this crazy ride through the darkness of grief with renewed depth and understanding with your partner. Your relationship can and will be affected and this book provides ways to support yourself and each other through the process. This book is based on bereaved parents’ needs, challenges and detailed descriptions of what has helped numerous couples that I have interviewed – couples in varying situations and at different stages in their journey with grief.
This book describes the 5 steps to survive loss as a couple:
- Step 1: Allowing
- Step 2: Awareness
- Step 3: Acknowledging
- Step 4: Adjusting
- Step 5: Absorbing & Integrating
It allows parents to move through grief and reemerge as a couple.
The intent I follow with the book and the interviews
As mentioned above, it is really about bringing awareness to the process of grief, one that we will be dealing with sooner or later in our lives. My wish is that through breaking the silence we enable society to be more open and understanding with each other, allowing and accepting the experience of grief, however it may be expressed. I hope my sharing will encourage more supporters to stand strongly with someone in emotional pain (grief or other) without the urge to fix them or make them feel better before they are ready themselves.
Planned publication date
The book is planned to be published September 1st 2014 – the birthday of my daughters Ananda Mae and her twin sister Amya, who passed away. To find out more about their story, click here.
UPDATE: The book is PUBLISHED! Read more updates here.
Testimonials from readers
I bought Nathalie’s book ‘Grieving Parents’ and found it such a great help to me, in understanding the unique and individual way men and women grieve. Also as a guide showing how to start to live again as a couple in this new normal, and discover invaluable heartfelt insights from other real life couples telling their own personal stories of their journeys through loss. So I decided to purchase a second copy of the book for my grief therapist’s office library, as a gift of gratitude for all the support and advice, but also to share this amazing book and knowledge with other bereaved parents to help them heal and make life a little gentler. ~ Leah B.
Click here for information on the Content of the book.
Click here to read the Introductory Chapter of the book.
Click here for information on the people interviewed for this book.
Click here for a one page information sheet about the book.